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I shall post some news of interest to Sri lankans about life in Sri Lanka in the period 1950-1960 mainly. This will feature articles on music, general history and medicine. I am dedicated to humanism and refuse to judge people according to labels they are born with. Their actions and behaviour shall be my yardsticks, always cognizant of the challenges they faced in life.

Monday 13 January 2020


Prisoners of Time

For each of us
The preceding moment
Is filled with past memories
The succeeding moment
Is filled with anticipation
The present moment
Is never free from either

At the same moment
With the same conditions
Is it not inevitable

That..........

We see differently
We think differently
We react differently
We judge differently

Are we not prisoners of time
Past present and future
Is Free will a myth?

Tuesday 7 January 2020

It happened in London.........................


It happened in London……..
Winter Reunion London January 2020,
By Nihal D Amerasekera  and Mahendra (Speedy) Gonsalkorale

Nihal begins the story:
What a wonderful winter warmer it was at such short notice. When Pram called me on the 19th of December 2019, the plan was for a quick and short get-together for two of us with Mahen and Zita. But as each day passed I could see the snowball getting larger and rolling on until the figure reached 21.

The bouquets and the applause go to Pram and Mahendra for their brilliant organisation done with so much affection, kindness and care. Pram did the reconnaissance visiting the Sri Lankan restaurant which is in the posh part of London near Buckingham Palace, meeting the owner and making the arrangements. Dammika’s is a restaurant that has won awards for its cuisine and customer care. They had created a bit of Sri Lanka in the heart of London. Dammika’s made the restaurant available to us and closed it for visitors from 12-3pm. Mahendra made a huge attempt to contact everyone in our batch living in the UK creating a WhatsApp Group in the process for easier communication. He kept in close contact with everyone making sure they knew how to reach the venue despite the many vagaries of public transport on a Sunday. All this was done with meticulous care, loving-kindness and a great deal of patience.

The cast
Pramilla Senanayake
Nihal (ND) Amarasekera
Mahendra (Speedy) Gonsalkorale
Sunil Abeysuriya and wife Sirima
Zita Perera Subasinghe and husband Joe
Shanthy Nalliah
Susil Attale and wife Rupa
Sunanda (Jimmy) Wickremasinghe
Douglas Mulgirigama
Harischandra (Bora) Boralessa and wife Harshi
Edwis Francis Samarakone and husband Tony
Indrani Anthonypillai, daughter Rose with husband John and 2 kids Maria and Johnty
Shryani Batuwittage (wife of the Late BTB)
Dhushyanthi Vedavanam (wife of the Late S.Vedavanam)
Sakuntala  (wife of N Balakumar)
Jayaratnam



Apologies were received from Manil Katugampola (Hetti), Susheila Thiagarjah (Kanagasabey), Maheswary Nadarajah (Singarayer), Dharamani Makalananda, Appu Sumathipala, Ranjit Dambawinna, Pulasthi Wickremasinghe, Rohini Abhayaratne.

The Reunion kicked off with the usual pleasantries, lots of hugs and kisses. Pram and Mahen in their speeches welcomed everyone. We made a special welcome to the wives of our batch-mates who are now no more – Dhushy (Sivakumar Vedavanam’s wife), Shriyani (Boyd Tilak Batuwitage’s wife) and Sakuntala (Balakumar’s wife). It was so lovely to see Indrani Subramaniam with her daughter Rose and her husband John with their two delightful children Maria and Jhonty. We must pay tribute to Indrani for attending all our gatherings despite her difficulties. Douglas Mulgirigama has authored a book on psychiatry in the Sinhala language which is to be released soon in Colombo. He made a brief presentation and we wish it every success. Before sitting down for our meal there was a minutes silence for our dear departed friends.

There was never a dull moment. We shared humorous stories from way back and the favourite anecdotes were repeated with some variations. Amidst lots of laughter and chat we tucked into the sumptuous buffet of buryani, roti, rice, hoppers, string hoppers and a fine selection of mouth-watering authentic ‘home-cooked’ curries. The hoppers and egg hoppers were everyone’s favourite. Friends were queuing for their arrival hot off the pan. They were topped by a dessert of Watalappan or Crème Brulee.

It was so lovely to see so many of our batch despite the short notice and the winter weather. We are most grateful to the staff at Dammika’s and their charming and enthusiastic manager for their helpful kindness and their friendly service. The food was simply delicious and rekindled our memories of home. There was the amazing and wonderful feeling that despite the years and the oceans that separate us from our birthplace we felt that we belonged together.

This was a most memorable reunion and everything finally came together beautifully. The feedback for the function has been excellent, and the expectation is that we must make this a regular event. The success of the reunion was due to the goodwill and support of all who attended. Whenever there is a reunion or a gathering, large or small, it wouldn’t happen without the energy, genuine warmth and passion of Pramilla Senanayake and Mahen Gonsalkorale. Their self-effacing modesty astounds me. The success of this event is a tribute to their hard work. I wish to thank them on behalf of everyone who attended this event.

The London Reunion 2020 was a fabulous event of friendship of our batch and all our friends who joined us. We will forever remember the happiness and the laughter that filled the dining-hall on that dreary winters day. May we have the good fortune to meet again.

Speedy continues:
My main role was to communicate with all and liaise with Pram on the venue, menu and other practical details. Pram was an amazing negotiator and full credit to her for the final menu arrangments at Dammika’s. Her legendary communication skills and powers of persuasion were a joy to behold.

The following is a summary of quotes from the WhatsApp group I set up. I called it – Medical Batch62uk. I spoke to Rohini Abhayaratne today and was so happy to hear that she was touched that I chose an image of her late dad (or Patchaya as she reminded me!) for the logo of the group. I hope that readers will get some idea of how well our reunion went from this note. It is simply amazing that we have maintained links in some form or other for nearly 58 years!

ND: Mahen both you and Pram have done wonderfully well to organise a lunch for a group who are retired and on the move all the time. Information on WhatsApp is more difficult to keep track of as there are multiple interactions that are scattered unlike emails.

Dhushy: Many thanks Mahen for the thorough illustrated instructions for us to find the place easily

Edwis Francis Samarkone: Thank you for giving directions to Dammikas. Hope we make it for 12noon. Thank you Pram and Speedy for arranging it and a wonderful 2020 to all.

John Moore (Indrani Anthonypillai's son-in-law): Thank you all so much for letting us join you. Indrani had a wonderful time, as did we all. We hope you all make / made it home safely. With much love John on behalf of Indrani and the Moores

Pram: Dear Indrani John    Rose Maria & Johnty you are certainly part of my family and you are always welcome. Glad you had a good time. Have a great 2020. God bless you. See you in the summer love pram

Edwis:. Hope these photos get through.  Tony and I enjoyed meeting all of you today. Thank you Mahen and Pram for all your efforts. Hope we all meet again in June. Kind regards to all.  Edwis

Shanthy Nalliah: Hi everyone just arrived home. It was lovely to see all of you and enjoy hoppers and wattalapam! Pram and Speedy thanks very much for beautifully organising the event. God bless you all. Pram safe journey to SL. Bye Mahendra. You will need a week to recover from the event you organised. God bless you. Shanthy

ND: Shanthy good to see you. Pity the time went so quickly

Zita: This is Zita. Joe and I thought it was an absolutely fabulous get together expertly planned! The food was great. Meeting everyone was extra special! Thanks a million

ND: Zita it was so wonderful to see you both. Seeing Joe was a bonus after such a long time. God Bless.

Zita: Thanks and it was lovely to see you. And I wish the time didn’t go so fast as we would have liked to go on chatting. But all good things have to end.

ND: Dhushy, t was such a great pleasure to see you and thank you for coming. It was so lovely to see your son and daughter and also your grandchildren. That photo of Sivakumar brought him back to life and to the happy memories of the time we spent together. Take care and please keep in touch.

Dhushy: Mahen you deserve a well-earned holiday after yesterday- you have done so much of work with Pram behind the scenes to make this mini get together a very enjoyable and memorable event. What struck me most was we were all made to feel so welcome and the friendship and fellowship amongst everyone was so evident. Thank you so much again.

Shriyani (Geeta) B: Yeah! Dushy, you said it all!  My feelings are mutual. Thanks, Mahendra and Pramila.  I enjoyed the whole experience, have a safe journey back.

Dhushy: Geetha I have been thinking of you. Will write soon. It was so lovely to meet you. Dhushyxx

Speedy:  A quick thank you to each and every one of you for a hugely enjoyable afternoon. Photos shall follow. Please send me any you took. Keep in touch and take care.

Pram: Indeed speedy. We had an awesome time. Way beyond my wildest dreams. Thank you speedy for coordinating the whole event. Thank you to each and everyone for coming. Have a splendid 2020.

ND: It was such a lovely gathering. It was a more intimate reunion than we have had before. The food was brilliant and served with loving care. Our thanks to Pram and Mahendra for the brilliant organisation and the helpful advice from start to finish. Thank you.

Jimmy: (Email) Thank you so much to you Pram and Speedy for an excellent get-together.
The Venue was good, food tasty and company good.

Speedy: We gelled so well as a group. We must extend our friendship beyond reunions and I am sure you will join me when I say that wherever and whenever we need each other, we will unhesitatingly help in whatever way we can. WhatsApp, emails texts phone messages are all there as modes of communication. May you all be content and happy

Zita: Dushy, this reunion spearheaded by Speedy and Pram has opened up for our batch mates and their families an open communications network to keep in touch, help one another and keep our friendship alive and active. Let’s make use of it and brighten up each other’s lives! Zita

Dhushy: Zita great idea. I endorse what you say wholeheartedly. Yesterday we met up for a couple of hours but I can say from the bottom of my heart that the friendship and fellowship we forged was lasting...this is what I believe. Back at home. It was such a lovely memorable afternoon with lovely people. Mahen and Pram you have done a great job planning this event so well. The organising was super. Million thanks for inviting the spouses of your departed batch mates. The food was delicious with lots of choices. Everyone had a jolly good time.  Thanks to Zita for the invaluable advice re my eye problems. The rapport amongst all of us was great. As Zita rightly said yes we could have gone on chatting but all good things have to come to an end! It was lovely to see ND and Sunanda too. I was happy to meet Attale too. Sakuntala, Sriyani and I are planning a rendezvous!
Pram have a safe journey back to Sri Lanka. Hope to see you in the summer. May you all have a Blessed 2020. Dhushy



Wednesday 1 January 2020

HAPPY NEW YEAR -2020

Wishing all my valued colleagues and their spouses and families a very happy new year.

You would have noted my opening statement:- 
“I am dedicated to humanism and refuse to judge people according to labels they are born with. Their actions and behaviour shall be my yardsticks, always cognizant of the challenges they faced in life”.
In case readers wonder why I included the words-"always cognizant of the challenges they faced in life”, it is a recognition of the fact that in many ways, we don't really have a "free will" because, in the same situation, two people can make contrary decisions because of traumatic experiences (challenges) they faced in life which subconsciously affect their judgement. A young man brought up in an inner-city ghetto with abusive parents compared to a man brought up in a stable environment with loving parents for example. That is why we must be very careful in passing judgment on actions performed by people. Knowing the background is crucial. This type of thinking also leads to reforming a criminal rather than punishing him. I would be very interested in your feedback.

This brings me neatly to why I value our 1962 ColomboMedgrads blog and commend it to all of my Medical friends.

There are several major influencing factors in our lives.

1.  Our genes. This is probabilistic and not necessarily deterministic. If you have good genes, consider yourself lucky! Bad genes are not an excuse either!
2.    Your parents and your family and how they influenced you.
3.    Your schooling and especially your teachers
4.    The moral values you were subjected to - role models, religious precepts etc.
5.    Key Formative years, and in our case, includes our Medical undergraduate days.

The list is not exhaustive. The final factor I mentioned is of great significance to me. I changed from a wide eyed innocent boy to a mature adult. My teachers and my fellow undergraduates are and shall remain a key part of my life- not necessarily as a daily conscious thought requiring reminiscence and introspection, but certainly a key part of what makes me what I am.

I am reminded of a few worthy quotes.

(1) "True friendship comes when the silence between two people is comfortable." David Tyson Gentry
(2) "Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It's not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything.Muhammad Ali
(3) "The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, not the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you with a friendship." Ralph Waldo Emerson 
(4) "Growing apart doesn't change the fact that for a long time we grew side by side; our roots will always be tangled. I'm glad for that." Ally Condie

To all my colleagues I say, “Thank you very much and let us always be friends, however far apart we are!”

Mahendra “Speedy”  Gonsalkorale